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Dave Seddon
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 10:50 am |
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How many steelers out there put their instrument (steel guitar) before anything else. How many steelers have put gigs before day jobs ie.taking time off work to do a gig,losing money and the wife goes bonkers. I lost my first wife due to this situation, fortunately it worked for me, I've been married to my second wife for 27 years and she is my best critic. She is not the worlds greatest steel fan but she knows when I make mistakes and even makes suggestions how to make things sound better. Anyone else been through this?????
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Benton Allen
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Muscle Shoals, Alabama, USA
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 12:44 pm
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Stu Schulman
From:
Ulster Park New Yawk (deceased)
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 12:47 pm
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I haven't experienced any of that but it sounds like it would make a good LIfetime movie? 
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Michael Strauss
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Delray Beach,Florida
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 12:48 pm
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When I was a teenager, it was surfing. We got up before school to check the waves, that came first.
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Bob Cox
From:
Buckeye State
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 1:29 pm
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| Should I go to work ,or do the show with Shania?I think I made up my mind. |
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James Cann
From:
Phoenix, AZ
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 4:05 pm
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...put(ting) gigs before day jobs ie.taking time off work to do a gig,losing money...
Not still doing this, I trust. |
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Eric West
From:
Portland, Oregon, USA, R.I.P.
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 4:24 pm
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Random answer...
My PSG came first for money, and then when a day job came along it HAD to fit in with playing regularly.
It's ALWAYS been ahead of romantic situations that might lead to stopping it.
It took over the main focus of my life about a year after I started playing it.
That doesn't mean I've left all other things unattended.
Only that for better or worse, they haven't recieved my full attention.
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Bob Hoffnar
From:
Austin, Tx
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 11:08 pm
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I tried the day job thing for a while. The part about going to work every day was really cutting into my music time so I had to let it go. I'm not stable enough to handle not playing music.
As far as women go when conflicts come up about music it means there is some sort of basic issue happening that music gets blamed for. There is no way that I could tolerate a woman that put herself in the way of music. I feel like it helps to be with somebody who loves and admires your music.
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Edward Meisse
From:
Santa Rosa, California, USA
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Posted 20 Jun 2008 11:19 pm
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I haven't gone as far as you guys. No doubt that's why I'm still an amatuer. Insufficient passion for the instrument. It does take over my free time for months at a time. But that's about it.
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Charlie McDonald
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 3:47 am
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I'm in the same boat as Edward.
Music is a way, but I never let it get in the way of my life.
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Bob Bowden
From:
Vancouver, BC, Canada * R.I.P.
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 6:29 am
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| Should I go to work ,or do the show with Shania?I think I made up my mind. |
Was Shania disappointed when you booked out?  |
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Dick Wood
From:
Springtown Texas, USA
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 7:04 am
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| Ok, maybe subconsciously I did most or maybe all those things but I just want all 4 of my ex's to know it was out of love. |
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Ray Montee
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Portland, Oregon (deceased)
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 7:55 am Like Eric says..................
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Even when I was a private (ultimately a Sgt. E-5) in the Oregon National Guard, Baker Battery of the 965th Field Artillery Battaliion, 41st Infantry Division, I got special passes from the CO so that I could play the regular Saturday night gig at the Division Street Corral....on the very day the Division headed for Ft.Lewis, Washington and a rollicking two weeks at summer camp.
My playing has always been way out in front of whatever was in second place. Day jobs, etc. |
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Pete Burak
From:
Portland, OR USA
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 9:36 am Re: Take over
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| Dave Seddon wrote: |
| How many steelers out there put their instrument (steel guitar) before anything else. How many steelers have put gigs before day jobs ie.taking time off work to do a gig,losing money and the wife goes bonkers... |
I've found there is plenty of room in life to do it all.
After all....
Life is soooooooo looooooong.
Just tell the people who may be affected by your decisions, the "absolute truth" about everything you're privatley thinking regarding how you want your life to unfold with regard to your gigs/family/work/life/etc "balance", as far in advance as possible.
When I do this, the response I usually get (from Wife/Boss/Etc), is...
" 'Shouldn't be a problem. ". |
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Bo Legg
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 9:53 am
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I use to have that problem.
But now it don't seem so long or near as hard as it used to be. Come to think of it that's what she said. |
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Roger Kelly
From:
Bristol,Tennessee
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 12:02 pm Re: Take over
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| Dave Seddon wrote: |
| How many steelers have put gigs before day jobs ie.taking time off work to do a gig,losing money and the wife goes bonkers. |
I have turned down many "overtime" shifts to go play for 1/4 of what I could have made at work.
Drive 100 miles or more round trip, get home 2 or 3 AM and have to be at work 7 AM. Swear that I'm not going to do that anymore, only to do the same thing a few days later. Them were the days 
I'd say that many of you have done the same thing. |
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Dave Seddon
From:
Leicester, England.
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Posted 21 Jun 2008 1:00 pm
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Hey Bo, I'm not sure whether to congratulate you or sympathise with you but at least you can laugh about it, and Roger I reckon your right, I think there are an awful lot of guys out there that have done it. Maybe they are not allowed to say so!!!!
Dave. |
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Roger Edgington
From:
San Antonio, Texas USA
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Posted 23 Jun 2008 6:50 am
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| Most of my life I've played local weekend jobs and it never was a problem. Now I travel quite a bit but I work for myself now and it's eaiser to juggle things around. We just did 5 days in Sacremento, Fort Worth now and then, NM. coming up and a trip to Poland. Yes, often for much less money. My wife has been suportive for over 42 years. |
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Dave Mudgett
From:
Central Pennsylvania and Gallatin, Tennessee
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Posted 23 Jun 2008 8:39 am
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I don't know about putting it before everything else, but I definitely take music seriously. I bailed out of an academic career as a college professor to play full-time and run a vintage guitar store. After 6 years of that, I got the bug to do science again. I haven't ever regretted any of it, but I'm lucky to have had so many options.
Both science and music demand a helluvalot of dedication and hard work. Somehow, my wife of over 30 years has managed to deal with it. I still play, and sometimes I do gigs that wouldn't be anywhere near as profitable as more technical work. In fact, right now playing is not profitable at all. I play exactly what I want and never compromise - you know where that leads.
Does playing interfere with my regular gig and rest of my life? Sure it does. I have to struggle to maintain balance, but I honestly think I'm a better teacher and scientist because I play music. Sound strange? OK.
I look at it like this - I play because I have to play. I just wouldn't be happy without it. OK - it costs something to be happy. You pays your money and takes your choice. It's that simple. If I cared only about money and could have ever just sucked it up and went for just making money, I probably would have enough to have retired a long time ago. Of course, I don't know what I'd need all that money for now, since I'd be miserable.
Most of my musical colleagues either play full-time or do very flexible day-gigs that don't interfere with their musical schedule. |
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